You probably never imagined you’d be here—researching divorce, wondering what’s true and what’s not. Maybe a friend gave you advice that didn’t sit right. Maybe you’ve heard horror stories and started fearing what’s ahead. You’re trying to make good decisions, but it’s hard when so much of what’s out there is conflicting, confusing—or just plain wrong.

The truth is, myths about divorce don’t just mislead people—they cause real harm. They heighten fear, strain relationships even more, and block people from finding the peace they deserve. Let’s take the confusion off the table.

The Real Problem: Divorce Isn’t What Most People Think It Is

Divorce can feel like walking straight into a storm—legal battles, financial fears, and emotional overwhelm. Popular culture and well-meaning friends often make it worse, feeding the belief that divorce has to be adversarial, painful, and drawn out.

And in the middle of it all, you’re left wondering:
Am I making a huge mistake? Will I lose everything? Will my kids be okay?
These aren’t just questions—they’re fears fueled by myths.

The truth? People in one of the most vulnerable seasons of their lives are often making decisions based on bad information. And it’s not right. You deserve clarity. You deserve a process that protects your future—and your children’s.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

There’s a Better Way Forward

I’m Steven Unruh, and I’ve spent over 30 years helping couples navigate divorce through mediation. I’ve seen the damage that common myths can cause—and the freedom that comes when people realize there’s another way.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, unsure, or scared about what’s next, here’s what I want you to know:
You are not stuck. You can protect your dignity, your peace of mind, and your future.

Let’s walk through five of the most common divorce myths—and replace fear with truth.

Myth #1: Divorce Has to Be a Battle

This is one of the most painful and persistent myths. And it simply isn’t true. Divorce doesn’t have to mean conflict, courtrooms, or winners and losers.

The truth: Mediation offers a respectful, guided process that helps both people come to workable agreements—without tearing each other apart. It’s not about fighting. It’s about finding solutions.

Myth #2: One Parent Always Gets Sidelined

Many people assume that custody decisions are one-sided or unfair by default. That kind of thinking only adds to the fear and tension.

The truth: When parents use mediation, they create their own parenting plan—tailored to their real-life needs. The focus shifts from competition to cooperation, which gives children the stability and support they need.

Myth #3: You’ll Lose Everything Financially

The fear of starting over financially is enough to keep people stuck in painful situations. And while divorce does bring change, it doesn’t have to bring ruin.

The truth: Mediation gives both people a voice in how assets and debts are handled. It often leads to solutions that feel more fair and manageable than those decided in court. You keep more control—and often, more peace.

Myth #4: Divorce Will Break Your Kids

It’s heartbreaking to think that your children might suffer long-term. But the truth is, it’s not divorce itself that causes the most harm—it’s how the divorce is handled.

The truth: Children are incredibly resilient when they’re shielded from conflict and surrounded by support. Mediation helps parents model cooperation and respect—two things kids desperately need during times of change.

Myth #5: You Have to “Lawyer Up” Right Away

The moment someone says “divorce,” many feel like their only option is to hire a lawyer and prepare for battle.

The truth: You can start with mediation. In fact, the earlier you do, the more likely you are to avoid unnecessary conflict and cost. You can still consult attorneys along the way, but mediation keeps the tone calm and forward-focused.

But What If I Don’t Trust My Ex?

That’s a valid concern. Mediation doesn’t require that you like each other—it only requires a willingness to try. I’ve worked with high-conflict couples who couldn’t be in the same room at first. But with structure, guidance, and clear boundaries, we built a path forward.

You don’t have to do this alone. I’ll walk with you through every step, helping keep things respectful and focused on what matters most.

You Deserve Clarity, Respect, and a Peaceful Path Forward

You don’t have to buy into the myths. You don’t have to feel like your only option is conflict. With the right help, you can complete your divorce with clarity, peace, and even dignity.

As a mediator with decades of experience, I’m here to help you begin—without the courtroom drama.

Schedule a free consultation today and discover what a peaceful divorce could look like for you.